🥺 What I needed but didn't get at 3 years old...

I remember being three years old.

That was the first time I felt bullied.

They were “just joking.”

They were laughing.

For them, it was light.

For me, it wasn’t.

Something collapsed inside.

In that moment, I split.

There was the original me — playful, curious, kind, exploring the world with an open heart.

And then there was the second mind.

The protector.

The one that learned: be careful.

The one that understood: the world can hurt you.

It still moves me when I remember.

What a tragedy — that almost every child, without exception, goes through some version of this.

Fourty years later, I’m in a circle.

That evening, we were only two people.

And I almost started crying.

For the first time in my life, I felt safe.

I felt that I finally know how to find and create a space where I feel fully safe.

I realized I had been craving this for fourty years — without even knowing it.

Now I understand something deeper:

This whole quest.

This ecosystem.

This movement to spread kindness to every human heart and every human brain.

It was born from a simple truth:

I am building what I needed the most.

And maybe that safety, that kindness, is the need for all of us.

Today, every week, in our Hawimi Circles I see people experience that same deep exhale.

Being heard without interruption.

Speaking uncomfortable truths without blame.

Using “I” instead of “you.”

Owning their feelings.

Discovering that even though our stories differ, our challenges and emotions are universal.

Abandonment.

Loneliness.

Joy.

Excitement.

Not feeling enough.

Feeling powerful together.

Belonging.

Also I want to share a powerful experience I had visiting a family that holds a circle every evening.

Just 20 minutes or so.

Everyone shares their day.

One of the kids, 5 years old — let’s call him Antonio — shared something difficult that happened that morning. He didn’t fully understand it. He didn’t yet have the tools to process it alone.

But in that safe space, something magical happened.

I could literally see the tension leave his body.

Like a free animal that shakes and releases.

And because of that, it didn’t become stored tension.

It didn’t become trauma that leads to decades of suffering and needs years of therapy.

What if every child had that?

What if every family had that?

What if we changed the world one family at a time,

one choice at a time,

one honest sharing at a time?

You can join a circle.

You can join the facilitator training:

Two days.

Two weeks.

Two months.

Step by step, until it feels natural.

This Saturday and Sunday, Facilitators Training. By donation.

And every week after that.

You can join the tribe, the movement.

The global kindness movement is still small.

But watch us.

We are growing from the inside out.

Loto

Founder at Hawimi

The Most Conscious (or Kind) World One Click Away™

P.S. Imagine a world where no child needs to split in two to feel safe. Where every family has a daily space to release tension before it becomes trauma. You can help build that world — from the inside.