A few minutes ago I was reading about Nadal, Jordan, Picasso...

A few minutes ago I was reading about Nadal, Jordan, Picasso, Dalí, Alcaraz, Marc Márquez.

A study on the belief that it's thousands of hours of dedication that lead to greatness.

And it’s true.

What's less obvious is what comes before.

The thousands of hours begin with a spark. With passion. With insatiable curiosity, an intrinsic motivation where progress alone — in art, in sport, in whatever we love — already brings satisfaction, gratitude, enjoyment, joy.

Hunger.

Hunger and fulfillment in an unstoppable spiral.

My hunger woke up at 16, when I had my first experience of presence, of real kindness.

Or maybe it started earlier. At three years old — when I was bullied and felt unsafe for the first time with the people I counted on to take care of me.

That's when my hunger woke up.

And first, for a few years until I was 16, what I learned was how to better manipulate the world so it wouldn't hurt me. How to adapt to it so that instead of mistreating me, people would take care of me. Instead of bothering me, they'd like me.

But this got me lost — through drugs.

And worse: it took me away from myself. From my truth, my strength, my honesty, my authenticity, my happiness, my passion.

At 16 I had my first peak experience. Of presence.

And since then — for over 26 years, every single day of my life — this insatiable hunger has led me to discover how to be more kind to myself and everything around me.

To stop hurting myself and those around me.

To stop letting the world hurt me — but not from anger, or hate, or closing down.

But from opening more.

To love. To intelligence. To discernment.

To communicate what I need in order to give as much as I want to give — and receive only what feels respectful to my body, my soul, my mind.

That's what this newsletter is about. 💛

Kindness is not always comfort.

In fact — in some sense, kindness is rarely comfort.

Kindness is consent: your own and the other's. It's caring for yourself and the other at the same time.

And if it's kindness only with myself — it's still kindness from my mind to my body. From the story I tell myself to the story I'm living. Not judging myself or my experience — and yet not justifying myself either.

That's why kindness is the key to paradise, individually and collectively. 🌿

Because it's an uncomfortable invitation for the ego — and a pleasurable one for the soul.

❤️

This is what the Hawimi circles are about.

Especially the Inner Circle.

Maximum 12 people. Minimum 8 weeks.

During those 8 weeks we know we can't hide. We co-create together a space of such psychological, emotional safety and support — reminding each other:

What do you truly want? 🔥

What are your desires — in your health, your relationships, your finances, your mission, your impact, your spirituality?

What are you going to do this week to move in that direction?

Did you do it?

And when something is hard for you — and in my experience there's always something challenging for all of us:

What's the limiting story I'm telling myself?

The one I least want others to know.

The one I most want to hide.

The one I'm most ashamed to share.

And sharing exactly that one.

Not in just any way. Not with just anyone.

But in a space where we know we won't be judged — and where it's with consent. Where the other actually wants to hear it.

When we share our dramas without the other's consent, that's not personal growth. It's disrespect for someone's space, energy, and sensitivity.

With consent, it can be the most sacred, the most valuable, the most transformative act. ✨

Without consent, it's disrespect.

Everything without consent is disrespect.

Sex with consent is one of the most sacred things in the universe. Without consent, it's rape.

Even a kiss with consent is a blessing. Without consent, it's an abuse of someone's space and sensitivity.

This may not be comfortable to read.

Because if you're like me — you've often acted without the other's consent.

So why not ask? 🤍

The fact that this isn't normal doesn't mean it isn't respectful.

This is what we need to feel safe. To feel genuinely supported. To stop traumatizing ourselves and each other. To stop creating conflict and war — within us, between us, and even between countries.

Thank you for listening. 🙏

If you want to embody this — what serves me most is the Hawimi Kindness Inner Circle.

If you want to share what you feel or think reading this — reply to this email or, more directly, message me on WhatsApp.

With passion,

Loto

Founder at Hawimi™

The Most Conscious World, One Choice Away™

P.S. Maximum 12 people per circle. If this resonates, the details are here…

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